How To Move Past Fear PART 1 | Messages for the Empath Soul Podcast
Fear is part of the human experience, however without a supportive and healthy way to move past fear it can become debilitating.
Fear can feel like quicksand in your life. It can feel like you're drowning in an ocean, too far from land. How do you come back to faith on your path? How do you achieve a state of peace again?
Recently in my own life fear became triggered and I had to consciously choose to guide myself back to peace. Over the last 7 years on my healing journey I have discovered a simple, yet impactful practice on how to move past fear.
There are 3 steps to this practice, and in part 1 of How To Move Past Fear I am sharing the first step with you.
Press play to take a deep dive in healing the emotional and energetic overwhelm of fear. You will walk away from this full series having a better idea of how you can support yourself to come back to peace anytime fear is triggered in your life.
The 16th episode is called How To Move Past Fear PART 1.
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Here I will share a condensed, polished, written version of the podcast episode. I highly encourage you to give it a listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.
INTRO
This is your soul journey and I am here channeling messages from the Universe to help guide and support you.
This is Messages for the Empath Soul.
If you’re new here, I’m Sydney a ⅖ generator, with a deep intuitive connection. My mission is to empower as many spiritual empaths in this community, creating a ripple effect of compassion and peace that is felt around the world.
I had an experience recently where fear cropped up in my emotional state and it began to trigger a cycle of thoughts of doubt, worry, self-judgment.
The problem is that I couldn’t ignore the issue that triggered the fear. There was a problem that I had been avoiding and I needed to finally deal with it. But, I didn’t want to move through the problem with FEAR ruling me. I wanted to move forward from a state of calmness, peace, and trust on my path.
Quote “The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and the acceptance of love.”
Unlearning your patterns that became conditioned by fear
Calling in love as a support system
These are the 3 steps that are necessary when moving past fear and creating a life where you thrive
1 - Moving through the Emotion
2 - Calling in Support
3 - Courageously taking Action
Moving through the Emotion
You first have to acknowledge that the emotion of fear has cropped up. Fear is an emotion, it’s not a state of mind, it’s not part of your identity. You are not fearful, you feel fearful, you feel afraid and you feel fear. Oftentimes we experience it differently, just like every emotion, we will experience it differently. For myself, fear feels heavy in my body and resistant. I have a heavy and resistant energy that crops up in my body when I feel fear. I have a feeling of being afraid and scared and it feels overwhelming.
I have a very simple process to move through emotions that I teach all of my 1:1 clients and I break it down very simply in my new course “Healing from Your Lowest Point: The Path Back to Your Soul”. The point of this course is to recognize we can have many low points in our lives. It’s when you have the lowest point in your life that you typically awaken on your journey. You become more consciously aware of your emotions and thoughts. It can feel extremely overwhelming, draining and exhausting after that low point.
This course guides you step by step on the path back to your soul. It guides you to understand yourself on a deeper level so you can heal those deeper wounds to shift out of survival mode and step into creation mode. This is where you are able to create a life where you thrive because you are able to make conscious decisions and you are not letting your old programming dictate the choices you make. You learn how to regulate your nervous system, so you can tune into your intuition and your gut instinct more easily.
Emotions only last for 6 to 90 seconds. The problem in being a human is that the moment an emotion is triggered within you, you begin to create a story in your head as to why you feel that emotion. One of my examples is that 3 years ago fear had cropped up when it came time to buy a new vehicle.
My lease was coming to an end and I didn’t have the financial means to buy the vehicle outright and I didn’t know how I would find a vehicle in my price range. This was something that I was avoiding, obviously I knew that my lease was coming to an end and I would have to deal with this. For my experience, my emotion was a lot of fear, and specifically fear of the unknown because I didn’t know how I would get my next car.
In this emotion I started to create a story around why I was feeling this way. It sounded like this, “I’ve made really poor financial decisions. I’m a terrible person because I’m not going to be able to buy another vehicle. Vehicles are all out of my price range. I’m not making enough money to buy a vehicle, this is a luxury I can’t afford.” I had a lot of self-criticism and self-judgment around this situation. This story in my mind built up a list of reasons as to why I was feeling this fear. In these stories I ended up creating different scenarios as to why I wouldn’t find success in being able to purchase a new vehicle.
Our emotions are guiding our thought patterns because of the vibration we are in. When I was in fear it was a heavy, dense frequency, so that ended up triggering a lot of low vibrational thoughts. This is how you get stuck in a story, you end up stuck in the reasoning as to why you feel the way you do.
As I mentioned, emotions only last for 6 to 90 seconds; however, it’s the story that you become fixated on that perpetuates the emotions. In my experience, because I had created this story in my head of all these reasons as to why I was afraid and why I wouldn’t be successful, it perpetuated the fear. I continued to stay in a state of fear and this emotion lasted a lot longer than it needed to because I let fear hold me back from creating any forward movement in my situation. This is a problem that many of us experience when fear comes forward, because it doesn’t feel good to be in a state of fear. We get stuck in the story as to why we don’t feel good, rather than simply moving through the emotion.
When you start to recognize that emotions only last for 6 to 90 seconds, you give yourself space to not get caught in creating a story. I’m not saying that reflecting on why you feel a certain way is bad. Reflection is good, because the more that we reflect the more we begin to understand and see patterns as to what is triggering our emotions. Then we can learn how to heal those wounds, or create better boundaries.
We are not meant to do the reflection and processing while we are in the emotion. You are not able to understand the emotion until you are on the other side of it. There are a lot of different ways you can move through emotions. One of my clients recently shared a way to move through her emotions is through her “stupid” yoga. It’s a very structured yoga practice that helps her move her body, tap into how she feels, and connect with her breath, which all helps her to move through those emotions.
For myself, sometimes to move through my emotions I will go for a walk, but oftentimes the most common way is by connecting to my breath. I first have to acknowledge that I am in an emotion, then I accept that it is okay that I am feeling this way, then I breathe and let that emotion move through me.
In regards to my car situation, eventually I had to have a conversation with my parents because I recognized I needed help and support in finding a solution. I remember sitting in my parents' living room, it was something I had already had a bit of a conversation with them about, but this was the first time that I was opening myself up and getting into the issue. I started crying, which is easy for me because I am a cryer and that is how most emotions move through me. I started crying so hard because the fear was so strong in my body all because of the story I had built up in my mind. I had believed that my parents wouldn’t support me, they wouldn’t have grace for me, they would shame me, blame me, and criticize me. I had all these stories that I was a bad person, and that was why it was so hard to be honest and vulnerable with them. The fear I was experiencing had become so strong in my body.
For a different example, a couple of days ago I had fear crop up because I was dealing with my taxes and I had to contact the CRA, the Canadian Revenue Agency, the organization in Canada that deals with our taxes. I remember the fear cropped up in knowing I had to contact them. It took me a moment to recognize what I had been feeling. I had been ignoring and avoiding this issue for a few years, and I had made it a “future Sydney’s” problem, finally today Sydney realized she had to deal with it. My response felt like crippling fear. The kind of fear that pulls you into quicksand, or pulls you under water and feels like you can’t catch your breath.
I had to sit with myself and acknowledge that fear came up. I had to accept that I was feeling fear and I had to guide myself through that. It’s a very simple practice of grounding myself, and calming my nervous system. I focused on my breath with deep inhales and exhales, and I came back to a state of reminding myself “oh yes, this is fear. I’m experiencing fear right now and it’s okay that I am feeling this. I am human, this is normal.” I needed to breathe, let the emotion flow through me and remember that once I’m on the other side of this emotion I will be able to make a more conscious choice that feels calm and reassuring. In this moment of feeling the fear I need to be calm and have grace for myself.
It’s a very simple process that I share in my program and it’s really about coming back to your breath, focusing on a deep inhale and deep exhale. I encourage you, if you are experiencing fear in your life, to come back to your breath. To feel your feet on the ground beneath you, take a deep inhale and slow exhale, and almost as if you are breathing in a cleansing energy and you are breathing out that feeling of fear. It’s a very energetic practice. It’s not something that we can just think our way to feeling better, we have to tap into our body and tap into our emotional center in order to shift the energy that you are feeling.
This is moving through the emotion. You need to let the fear be seen for what it is, and that starts with acknowledge and accept. I feel fear. The voice of fear is often your inner child that is terrified of being put in a life or death situation, this is the voice of fear. The moment you can acknowledge that you are feeling afraid and you can accept you are feeling afraid, which is as simple as you saying “it’s okay that I am feeling afraid”.
What stops you from being able to move through an emotion is your own resistance in feeling that emotion. I say this as someone who experiences it myself. Whenever I am having trouble moving through an emotion I usually can catch myself in my mind, and I am saying “it’s not okay to feel this, and I shouldn’t be feeling this.” In society we are taught that it is not safe to have emotions, we are taught that being emotional is a sign of weakness. So we don’t feel safe in having an emotional experience. As an empath and a sensitive soul, it’s your job in this lifetime to start affirming your own safety in your emotional experience.
You are a grown adult. It is your job to process your own emotions. It is your job to create a sense of safety for yourself in your emotional state. It’s okay if you’re feeling stressed. It’s okay if you are feeling angry, frustrated or sad. The reason why you are struggling to move through those emotions is because you do not believe that it is okay to feel those emotions.
In the acknowledgment and acceptance, you have to tell yourself “it’s okay that I am feeling this”. The reason why oftentimes you feel like it’s not okay is because in that emotional state, your nervous system believes you are in a life or death situation. This is why you don’t think it’s okay to feel this way, because your nervous system is saying “I will die if I feel this”. This seems dramatic and it is, that is how your nervous system understands the world. If something is unknown or uncomfortable in your life, your nervous system deems that unknown or uncomfortable thing to be unsafe. It’s your job to remind yourself that you are not in a life or death situation, this is not the end of the world. It’s okay that you felt like it was the end of the world.
This is the process of moving through your emotions, it’s creating a safe and supportive space to flow through whatever you are experiencing. This is why fear is coming up because your inner child is terrified that this situation is life or death.
I can 100% say that is true for my two examples, 3 years ago needing to get a new car and a couple days ago needing to call the CRA. I was not in a life or death situation, I was far from it; yet when the fear had come forward, everything in my body was telling me this is life or death, this is the end of the world. I had to move through my emotions in order to remind myself that this is not a life or death situation.
This guides us into the next step of moving past fear which is calling in support.
In the process of editing this podcast episode for you I realize I got into a state of flow, and I spoke about this topic for a really long time. I was meant to share these 3 steps really quickly for you so you could apply it to your life.
If you haven’t noticed by now, I love to tell a story and sometimes my stories end up going a lot deeper. I am going to wrap up this episode, because there are a lot of amazing takeaways for you in the first step of how to heal your fear. It’s all about feeling the emotion, and allowing the emotion to flow through you.
In part 2 of this you will receive the 2nd and 3rd part of this process.
In the meantime I encourage you to take everything from this first step and start noticing it in your own life. Pay attention to how you feel when fear is triggered and start to guide yourself through the emotional space of feeling those emotions. You can use this practice for any emotion you feel, not only fear.
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Sydney Smith
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