Feeling Safe to Heal & Change | Messages for the Empath Soul Podcast
Life lessons come back around many times for you to learn, relearn, practice, and eventually fully integrate into wisdom. When I experienced my first breakdown many years ago I remember being surrounded by darkness. Someone metaphorically offered their hand and it felt like the light I needed to guide me forwards. This is what I'm offering to you today.
Whether you are in a breakdown moment, or you're feeling lost, or you've been feeling stuck on your journey, I am here to offer support, clarity and guidance to lead you forward again.
This is a safe space for you to heal and change. By the end of this episode you will feel empowered to take the next step on your path, knowing that brighter days are ahead of you.
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The 21st episode is Feeling Safe to Heal & Change: How to receive support, clarity & guidance when you are overcoming a breakdown.
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Back to the blog - Feeling Safe to Heal and Change
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INTRO
Hello hello hello, welcome back to another episode of Messages for the Empath Soul. Today feels a little different, you might receive this very similarly to some of my other episodes, but it feels different for me because I am feeling a different energy.
It feels different because I remember when I had my breakdown moment many many years ago, and I’ve had many since the first one. I remember being surrounded by darkness and desiring light, I just needed light. Somebody offered a hand and it felt like the light I needed to guide me through. The hand that the person offered, the symbolic hand they offered through my breakdown was really just a mirror of my own inner light. I remember a year and a half after my breakdown I felt called to this work, not just to being a spiritual mentor, but I felt called to being a safe space for you. I felt called to being that light for somebody else in their darkness.
Today’s episode is not just “here’s a message, go run with it”. Today’s episode is a little more meaningful, a little more impactful, and I hope you find it at the exact time you need it. I hope that maybe you have no idea what led you here and what led you to press play on this, but for some reason your soul called you to this moment because there is something here for you. Maybe you’re not new here, maybe you’ve been following me for a long time and you’ve listened to all of my episodes and you may not be in a breakdown moment, but being here for this episode is a reminder that you’re never alone. There is always light even when you feel surrounded by darkness.
Today I want to provide a safe space for you to feel safe enough to heal and change. Whatever it is you are healing from, whatever it is that you feel called to change in your life, I want you to feel safe enough to do it. I want you to feel supported. I want you to feel like you have the clarity, and I want you to receive the guidance that you need to overcome this breakdown, to get through this darkness and to find your way on the other side.
So, allow me to introduce this space before we jump in.
This is your soul journey and I am here channeling messages from the Universe to help guide and support you.
This is Messages for the Empath Soul.
If you’re new here, I’m Sydney a ⅖ generator, with a deep intuitive connection. My mission is to empower as many spiritual empaths in this community, creating a ripple effect of compassion and peace that is felt around the world.
Today we are coming together for this episode which is Feeling Safe to Heal and Change: How to receive support, clarity and guidance when you are overcoming a breakdown. It has a long title because I felt like it needed it. This episode is going to provide so much for you, but really it’s going to be the light in a moment of darkness. Even if you feel like you aren’t in that darkness right now, it will remind you that you are never alone and it will provide that safety you’ve been needing when you feel like you are just barely surviving.
Every single time I have had a breakdown moment the fear of not being able to get past this moment has weighed me down. Whether I was curled up in a ball crying, feeling unable to stand up and walk away; or I was screaming at the sky asking “why me?”, in both of these kinds of breakdowns my fear was telling me that I wasn’t safe.
Looking back now, I can see very clearly that the moment always passes. The moment of feeling so incredibly overwhelmed by emotion and darkness will always pass. There are ways in which I support myself through those moments now and more importantly, there are ways I lead myself with courage and compassion to create deeper healing and change in my life.
I’m here to remind you, those breakdown moments ARE your spiritual awakening. Your soul and the universe is quite literally shaking you by the shoulders saying “It’s time to heal. It’s time to change. Let’s walk this journey together.”
In this episode I want to provide a sense of safety here and now for you, this way you can open yourself up to receive the support, clarity and guidance you require to create the healing and change you desire in life.
Let’s take a moment here together, if you can close your eyes with me. Breathe deep. This feeling of being unsafe, it’s only your nervous system feeling uncomfortable. You are safe here with me in this moment. You are safe here with your soul and the entire universe conspiring in your favour. Breathe in a sense of calmness, breathe out the tension. You are safe with me here.
Now, let’s dive into the support, clarity and guidance to overcome this breakdown. Wherever you find yourself on your journey you know that you desire to heal and you desire to create change. There is something that has been blocking you, there is something that has been holding you back, maybe it’s fear, maybe it’s overwhelm, maybe it’s exhaustion. Together, you and I, in this moment, we are going to start your journey forwards in overcoming this breakdown.
BEING OPEN TO HOW GOOD IT CAN GET
First thing is first, it’s time for you to be open to how good it can get.
In the breakdown the voice of fear is trying to keep you small. The darkness of this shadow moment is reiterating how awful life has become, how terrible this situation is, and how you will forever feel this heaviness. I know because I’ve been there. I know what that voice of fear sounds like, I know how it tries to hold you in the weight of that pain.
I’ve been through it, I’m on the other side and I am here to remind you in this moment, that you are simply in the quicksand of a shadow moment. You cannot see the light in this darkness because YOU ARE THE LIGHT and fear has dampened your spark.
Life can change and it WILL change. You have spent far too long thinking about all the problems and challenges and obstacles that have found a way onto your path and might find a way onto your path in the future.
Now, this moment, right here, you and I, it’s time to start pouring your energy into the thought of “how good can it get”. You’re moving past survival. You are starting to step into a life of creation, the life where you thrive. It might not feel like it right now because you are in the darkness. That is why I am here, I am here to remind you that it can get good, it will get good, and it’s starting to get good.
Anything truly is possible. The universe is limitless. The only blocks and resistance on your path are the old wounds you are carrying, and the limited beliefs you were taught to hold onto. Your healing journey and your ability to change will tear down those walls of limitations and open you up to the freedom, the peace and the joy you desire.
Now that we know that this moment is about being open to how good it can get, you may ask “How can you receive support?”. When I am in the breakdown moment or shortly afterwards I call on my Divine Team of Angels, Ancestors and Spirit Guides to usher in support. I know they are always with me and I know they can only step in and guide me if I ask for their assistance. This type of spiritual connection has grown with me on my journey because of the amount of times I’ve asked for their help and then have witnessed the assistance they usher in. Sometimes it’s a feeling within me where I no longer feel alone, and I feel the support of hundreds of beings on the other side. Sometimes they guide in a friend, mentor or loved one who I feel safe with. Feeling safe on your journey to heal and change begins with receiving support, because you aren’t meant to do it all alone.
Maybe you’re divine team guided you to this moment, to this podcast, to me. I am here to remind you that you are not alone and I am here to remind you to be open to how good it can get because it can get good. The amount of energy you spend worrying about the problem is the same amount of energy that you can pour into thinking about how good it can get. It’s your choice. You are the light, fear has simply damned your spark and I am here to reignite it for you. I am here to remind you that you are in the quicksand of a shadow moment and I am offering my hand to help you step out to the other side.
Let’s move into the next step.
REALIZING YOU’RE NOT A VICTIM, YOU’RE A STEWARD FOR CHANGE
Life is not happening to you, life is coming from you. It’s time for you to feel the courage and power of taking life into your own hands and making it whatever you want it to be. I know things have been tough. I know it feels like your path has been filled with challenges and obstacles. And I know your soul came here to create something better.
You feel the call within. It’s why you are here in this space with me. You know you were made for more and you are tired of feeling out of control and like life is causing more problems for you.
Stand tall my friend. You are not only worthy of greatness, you are a steward for change. This is where you get to start asking yourself more clearly “what kind of changes do I want to see in my own life and in the world around me?”. It’s not just about pointing out the problems, it’s about seeing the issues and recognizing that something deeper within you is saying change is possible and I’m here to help create a ripple effect of healing, compassionate energy in the world. That’s you, that is you, something within you that is saying change is possible and you are here to help create a ripple effect of healing, compassionate energy in the world. It all starts with you. You can create change in the world and it first starts with creating change within yourself and your own life.
You might be asking “How can I receive clarity?”
In a moment of feeling so stuck in the unknown or so overwhelmed by the unknown you think “how can you receive clarity?”. It’s all about bringing your awareness back to your own courage in creating change. It starts with knowing where this change is needed.
When I’m ready to receive clarity on my path it usually starts with me recognizing where I feel blocked. I’m not ignoring it, I’m not avoiding it and I’m not denying it. I take the time to acknowledge the thought patterns that have been weighing on me or the emotions that have me feeling stuck. You have to acknowledge it.
Once I can see the block more clearly, then I ask my Divine Team and the Universe to provide clarity. I will say something like “I don’t know why this resistance or block is coming up, but I trust I’m meant to heal through it. Please provide me with clarity. I’m looking for an answer or a new perspective that can help me to shift this energy.”
Then I walk away from the issue and I focus on something else. I trust that the clarity will flow into my awareness at the exact right moment without me searching for it. Sometimes in the shower a new perspective or awareness will hit me and it will be the clarity I was needing. Sometimes it will come in conversation with someone else, sometimes in meditation.
Being open to receive clarity for you starts with feeling safe in creating the changes you desire. You’re not a victim, you are a steward for change. The Universe guided you to this moment to recognize your own courage and determination to keep showing up and creating supportive, positive change in your life. You feel it, you feel the call. You know you are made for something more. I am here to help you feel safe in creating the change you desire. Recognize that you feel blocked or you feel that resistance. Journal on it, acknowledge those thought patterns and then ask the Universe and your divine team to provide clarity. “Please provide me with clarity, I am looking for an answer or a new perspective that can help me to shift this energy.”
That is the second step when it comes to healing and changing, realizing you are not a victim, you are a steward for change.
KNOWING IT’S A JOURNEY, NOT A RACE
Healing and creating change is not easy, and it can take a lot of mental and emotional energy. It’s important to remember this is not a sprint to become perfectly healed, it’s a journey that often takes a lifetime.
Through each lesson learned you move along the spiral of ascension, gaining deeper awareness and growing your level of consciousness. That’s how you expand your soul.
I spent 5+ years deep in my own healing, until one day I realized that I was kind of missing out on life itself. Now in the depths of that healing I embarked on a whole new journey, aligning myself with my spiritual mission more clearly. But I was overwhelmed and exhausted a lot of the time, unable to socialize and easily triggered by the world around me.
I would NOT change a thing about my journey because it’s got me to where I am today; however the message I now share with you and others is to remember healing and change is a journey, not a race to a finish line.
You are able to experience more peace and joy in life when you can remember this because you won’t as easily get stuck in the idea that you are not where you want to be. This is a reminder to be present, to enjoy life, and to heal and change the aspects that become triggered as they come up.
As you are journeying through life you are going to know when there is something to heal and change. That is what the breakdowns are for, as shitty as the breakdowns are. Trust me, I’ve been through them. But that is what today’s message is all about, that’s what this moment you and I are here for right now. This is as much for you as it is for me, reminding myself that it’s a journey. I get to have fun and enjoy life AND acknowledge my triggers, hold space for myself through them, learn, heal, change. Because you and I, we’re both stewards for change.
How can you receive direction on your journey? You might understand that it’s a journey and not a race, but what happens when you feel stuck and you don’t know how to move forward?
Knowing when to move, when to take action and where to take action can be a huge block for many people. I’ve seen it in my own experience and can easily become frustrated when I know change is needed, but I’m unsure on how to create that change or where to go.
This is when I talk to my Divine Team and I ask for the next step.
As humans we become so focused on having a 10 step plan, but as a soul we know the only important step is the one in front of us right now. You cannot focus on step 5 if you haven’t even taken step 1 yet.
Your intuition and the Universe will always guide you to the next step when it’s time. But you waste your own energy by overthinking all the steps that might come afterwards. Feeling safe to change comes from building trust in yourself and the universe to overcome and accomplish whatever crosses your path. This level of trust builds the more you ask for direction from the universe.
Who I was 3 years ago in asking the Universe for my next step helped me to become who I am today when I ask the Universe for my next step. This journey has allowed me to build trust in my ability, trust in my capabilities. This journey has allowed me to gain more courage to take that next step even when I don’t know what might come after it. I didn’t get here because I knew how to get here, I got here because I tried and now I have a greater sense of awareness and understanding of how to guide myself moving forwards. This is why I am here sharing this with you.
When you are feeling scared and you know that it’s time to heal and change I want to remind you that I am here with you. Allow me to be your hand in the darkness. You are not alone, allow the light to shine through.
It starts with the first step, being open to how good it can get. When you continue to focus on the problems then your energy is being poured into more problems. I know it feels like you are stuck in the quicksand of a shadow moment, and you are; but guess what, the more you move quickly trying to pull yourself out, the more the quicksand pulls you down. Moments of stillness, moments of rest, that is how you start to gain a bigger perspective to help guide yourself out of the shadow, out of the quicksand. You are the light, I am just igniting that spark within you again.
This comes to asking for support, asking your spirit guides, ask the Universe, whoever it is you connect to. When I say divine team, you might say God, you might say Jesus, you might say higher power, you might say source, you might say my higher self, whatever it is that resonates with you. Call on that spiritual support, ask that energy to usher in support and it will.
Second step realizing you are not a victim, you are a steward for change. You are here to create change in the world, you are here to create change in yourself and in your life. It really does start with recognizing where the blocks are, where the resistance is. Acknowledge the thought patterns that have been weighing on you and then ask your divine team for clarity. “I don’t know why this is coming up, but I trust I am meant to heal through it. Please provide me with clarity”.
The third step, knowing it’s a journey, not a race. Whenever you feel stuck for direction, again ask for the next step. You will be surprised at how the next step finds you.
I want you to take this information, this knowledge, this wisdom, this message, and I want you to apply it to your life right here, right now.
SELF REFLECTION CREATES SOUL CONNECTION
Self reflection is a powerful tool that helps you to better understand yourself and strengthen your connection with the Universe. I can’t do it for you. I’ve done it for myself. I can support you in figuring it out along the way. That is why we are here, this is where you build trust and find a way to surrender more easily.
Use these journal prompts to create safety on your journey of healing and creating change. Take a moment to reflect on them and write them down. Pen to paper my friend. Journaling is so impactful.
1 - What are some positive outcomes you’d love to see happen?
2 - What heaviness or fear do you want to release and let go of?
Lay it out, acknowledge it. Let’s be honest, I know you don’t want to keep holding onto this. I know you are tired of holding onto this pain. So acknowledge it, because that is how you release it.
3 - What internal qualities do you want to strengthen and grow in yourself?
You are a steward for change my friend.
4 - How can you connect more with the Universe to receive support, clarity and guidance?
Maybe this question is about looking at the 3 tips I shared with you today in how I connect with my Divine Team and bringing them into your life. Maybe this question will help you to understand what feels right for you.
I am here, creating a safe space for you to heal and change because that is your birthright. It is your birthright to create healing from the wounds you have carried for so long. It is your birthright to create positive, supportive, uplifting change in your being and in your life.
GOODBYE
Remember, your life is happening right now. There is not some future moment you need to rush forward to. Be here, take a deep breath, know that you are meant to be in this moment.
Life will always bring more lessons.
Your soul will always guide you to more healing.
Your mind will always require support to see from a bigger perspective.
You will always desire to be seen, heard and understood.
Be here now for yourself. In time you will feel the call to share more light and compassion with the world.
I’m Sydney, signing off and saying thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Sydney Smith
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